On thin ice: a study in hockey coaching relationships

Mike Chambers of The Denver Post reported yesterday that Florida Panthers general manager Dale Tallon and DU head coach Jim Montgomery are set for a second interview. Still, Montgomery insists that everything must be ‘perfect’ for him to leave. As for Tallon, “We have interviewed six guys and we have another half dozen we plan to speak to.”

So, just where is this relationship going?

LetsGoDU wanted to learn more about the psychology of new relationships. Madamenoire, a teen blog on budding relationships, seemed like the perfect place to start. We went to an article called “He’s just not that into you” for clues. Here are five signs that this bromance may be on thin ice:

  • He only sees you after midnight

A clandestine first meeting at a hotel – or worse yet, a Waffle House in Florida. Everyone knows you hooked up but neither side can talk about it. And the next meeting? An Alligator Alley rest stop or Splash Mountain – no wigs Monty, please!

  • He’s already involved with someone else

Montgomery on his relationship with Denver, “I feel valued. I feel loved. And loyalty means a lot to me.” And Tallon? He has scheduled scores of coaching prospect interviews. His candidate list is so long it has the feel of John Mayer’s little black book. It seems so dirty.

  • He’s dating other people

On the NHL tonight, Tallon gleamed, “We’re talking to A LOT of people. I have enjoyed every bit of it.” Ah, the thrill of the chase but can he be trusted? “You are the ONE – I just need to see a few more people to be SURE.”  Every guy tries this one but how many of us really get away with it?

  • He attends major events without you

Panther Fan Fest and Open House is scheduled for May 20th. But it looks like Monty, and all the other candidates, will just have to stay home. What must they be thinking? “Don’t you want me to meet your friends? Or, am I just not good enough!”

  • He pulls a disappearing act

Tallon says the confidential coaching search will involve many interviews and candidates over a series of weeks and possibly months. According to Madamensoir, “When you don’t see him  for days, weeks or months at a time without explanation, he is just not that into you”.

At the comments section at the end of the Madamensoir article, commenter Lived-and-Learned warned, “My ex-boyfriend did these things and it still took me several months to wake up and leave him. It happened gradually as he seemed so into me in the beginning and treated me like a princess. Over time he charmed and manipulated me into doing all kinds of things for him while he did less and less for me, until I realized I had become his mommy, housemaid, errand girl, laundress and “masseuse” with nothing in return, nothing literally, without knowing exactly how it happened.” 

From all accounts, Monty doesn’t even know how to cook.